The workshop of non-violent communication impresses me a lot. Definitely we had our own understanding towards non-violent communication. And we were given the process of building this, from observation, feeling, needs to requesting.
In the beginning, we were given a picture called the day of the god. Day of the God is one of a small number of paintings of Tahitian subjects that Paul Gauguin made in France between his stays in the South Pacific. An imaginary rather than realistic depiction of the South Seas, it is dominated by an idol of the goddess Hina. To the right of her, women dance the upaupa, a suggestive ancient Tahitian dance that missionaries and colonial authorities tried to suppress. In a middle ground of pink sand sits a female bather flanked by ambiguously gendered figures lying on their sides. Although the arrangement of this trio seems symbolic—perhaps of birth, life, and death—Gauguin made its exact meaning an enigma. But actually this information was not given before we were asked about the facts and the evaluation of the picture. So different views were shown from our members. Some may consider from the plants, and some from the clothes. The point is that it is hard to draw a line between the facts and the judgment. To be more, you ccould not start to evaluate before you know the facts.
Afterwards, we were given a short review of the film crash. We tried to figure out the feelings and the needs of the two people in the film. That is just the process of non-violent communication. We even tried some non-violent communication between the partners. The feelings and the needs were figured out by sharing our real violent communication with each other.
The non-violent communication discussion really works. From my perspective, this workshop is also important for leader to get the feedback from the members so that they can do some improvement as soon as possible. Especially, in countries like China, group members are always reluctant to challenge the authority of the leader. At this moment, the leader shall observe and try to feel from the view of the members. This also makes the non-violent communication meaningful.
In the beginning, we were given a picture called the day of the god. Day of the God is one of a small number of paintings of Tahitian subjects that Paul Gauguin made in France between his stays in the South Pacific. An imaginary rather than realistic depiction of the South Seas, it is dominated by an idol of the goddess Hina. To the right of her, women dance the upaupa, a suggestive ancient Tahitian dance that missionaries and colonial authorities tried to suppress. In a middle ground of pink sand sits a female bather flanked by ambiguously gendered figures lying on their sides. Although the arrangement of this trio seems symbolic—perhaps of birth, life, and death—Gauguin made its exact meaning an enigma. But actually this information was not given before we were asked about the facts and the evaluation of the picture. So different views were shown from our members. Some may consider from the plants, and some from the clothes. The point is that it is hard to draw a line between the facts and the judgment. To be more, you ccould not start to evaluate before you know the facts.
Afterwards, we were given a short review of the film crash. We tried to figure out the feelings and the needs of the two people in the film. That is just the process of non-violent communication. We even tried some non-violent communication between the partners. The feelings and the needs were figured out by sharing our real violent communication with each other.
The non-violent communication discussion really works. From my perspective, this workshop is also important for leader to get the feedback from the members so that they can do some improvement as soon as possible. Especially, in countries like China, group members are always reluctant to challenge the authority of the leader. At this moment, the leader shall observe and try to feel from the view of the members. This also makes the non-violent communication meaningful.